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Friday, August 10, 2007

listening

a friend called and said she needed to talk
i said "ok, let me go to the phone upstairs"
she was crying while she was recounting everything
i listened, a little unused to her emotions
but i started talking a little too soon

i have realised that im too quick to "troubleshoot". as in when someone shares with me something, i'll be really quick to go "maybe you could do this..." or "so..maybe you make it better by..". i wonder if it drives the people nuts, cos knowing that i always inevitably do it makes me feel bad. as in my friend calls for me to listen to her and yet she ends up being forced to listen to me instead. i try to reduce it but the opiniated one in me just shoots off most of the time once the talker tells me something that i do not agree with. and i end up feeling rather inconsiderate abt it.

sigh.

i really need to learn to just be there. to listen.

10:19 PM
heaven in a wildflower